When I met my husband, I found him to be a little creepy. In no way, did I ever think that I would fall for a man in old man leather tennis shoes. But somehow, over time he grew on me, and I knew we would spend the rest of our lives together.
The last two years have been a real struggle. My husband lost his business, went through a bout of depression, and was unemployed. Today, things are better, I don't like the job he has, but it does help pay the bills and he is home more often which is always a good thing. We both quit smoking and have put on the pounds, so that will need to be addressed very soon otherwise there will be no swimsuit season for me.
I have often wondered why I ever wanted to get married. I am independent, don't mind being alone, love to be free to do what I please....so what was missing?? I guess it was having someone else in my life that loved me for me that wasn't part of my family tree. He has been a blessing, even though these last two years have been extremely hard. I am learning to ease up, let him take on the role of disciplining the kids, which has helped me a ton. I stress out a lot because my step kids weren't raised in a so called "normal" household which isn't a bad thing, it just brings on more challenges.
I cried a lot last night when I told my husband how I felt about his health, the kids, and my life... but in the end, I felt better and knew why I got married to him. Marriage is hard, but living without the person I love would be impossible.
My stepdaughter loves to talk about anything, especially when she has our attention at the dinner table. I told her if I ever opened up a place to eat, I would call it "Shut-Up and Eat!" She didn't understand the humor, I hope you do.
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Friday, March 25, 2011
Why do they keep lying?
I try to think back to when I was a kid and what would happen to me if I lied to my parents. Would I get the "wooden spoon" treatment, a smack across the face or the "wait until your father gets home' speech, which I really hated.
These days, it seems like kids are lying more and it makes me so mad! I can't seem to wrap my head around why my step kids have chose to use lying as a form of communication when they were hurt so much growing up by someone who lied to them.
I asked my stepdaughter if the hair on her neck stood up when she lied, "It does" she said, so I know she is aware of what she is doing, but it is like she doesn't care and is happy to go on about her business. I told her to remember that not all pain can be felt like a rug burn, and sometimes internal pain can hurt even worse.
I am really hoping that she and her brother grow out of this because it has been really hard on the family and the teachers at school. I still am a horrible liar, my parents never threatened me or any of my sisters, we just always knew better.
These days, it seems like kids are lying more and it makes me so mad! I can't seem to wrap my head around why my step kids have chose to use lying as a form of communication when they were hurt so much growing up by someone who lied to them.
I asked my stepdaughter if the hair on her neck stood up when she lied, "It does" she said, so I know she is aware of what she is doing, but it is like she doesn't care and is happy to go on about her business. I told her to remember that not all pain can be felt like a rug burn, and sometimes internal pain can hurt even worse.
I am really hoping that she and her brother grow out of this because it has been really hard on the family and the teachers at school. I still am a horrible liar, my parents never threatened me or any of my sisters, we just always knew better.
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